Glee

Last time I updated, I went a little mushy and reminisced about what I imagine missing now that I’m not a teacher. As more time passes between me walking away from my school, I can clearly see the profession for what it is without my emotions being tied up in it.

Of course… just as there were sappy, mushy components to MISS about teaching there are also horrible, terrible, no-good pieces that I can say GOOD RIDDANCE to. Therefore, here is my

TOP 10 THINGS I WILL NEVER MISS 

10 – Feeling like a failure: Ah, yes. Nothing quite like waking up, going to work, giving it everything I’ve got only to hear that I screwed up…again. Teaching was like juggling a bunch of plates with more being thrown to me two or three at a time. My only option was to just keep on juggling and pray that WHEN (not if) I dropped a plate, it wouldn’t be an important one like student safety or adhering to a student’s learning plan. I’m pretty proud to say that I never dropped an important plate, but frequently lost stupid ones such as posting learning goals or having an updated hall display. No matter what I did correctly, I was sure to be talked down to because of all that I left undone.

9 – The lack of accountability: I am so tired of hearing politicians rant about how it’s time for some accountability in the education system and then introduce some new bullshit idea for teacher performance. I think there’s plenty of teacher accountability… what I’m sick of is how NOBODY else is accountable! The parents aren’t following the basic standards of raising their children correctly, the administration isn’t accountable for following safe behavior initiatives, the school board isn’t accountable for providing necessary materials and supplies for instruction, and the state isn’t accountable for providing valid and reliable tests! But sure… I’ll take the heat for Timmy not being able to read.

8 – The parents: This isn’t a biggie for me because just like kids, every year the parents are a crapshoot. Some years, the parents just stay out of my face and let me do whatever I want (which was great). Other years, parents are so wonderfully involved in their child’s education and seek opportunities to help even more (also great). And then some years, I get parents who don’t understand the concept that their child is not perfect OR that I have a room full of kids instead of just theirs. Yeah. Not so great.

7 – One brain mentality: Some of my friends have told me that it’s been this way for years, but this is a phenomenon that only recently creeped into my career. I don’t like this idea that every teacher should be teaching every subject using exactly the same techniques and resources. I don’t mean, “Hey, use the science book to teach energy,” but more like, “Well, Teacher A, B, and C’s plans state that they are reading book pages today, but you are using readers. Why are you not doing the same thing they are? You all should be planning together!” This mentality absolutely kills the whole notion of teachable moments and also mutes out any hope of teacher individuality.

6 – Grading, grading, grading, grading: No explanation necessary.

5 – Testing, testing, testing, testing: No explanation necessary.

4 – The word RIGOR: If I had made a drinking game using the word RIGOR, I would have been hospitalized for alcohol poisoning twenty minutes into any meeting I had with administration this year. Talk about the buzz word of the century! Sounds great, but nobody has any idea what the f&(% it means. Do you want to know what my definition of the word RIGOR is? It’s a word that the county/state/administration uses whenever they just don’t like how you’re teaching and want you to conform but don’t know how to force you to. In a sentence? “You know, your lesson just didn’t  really have the RIGOR that the standards require.”

3 – Data meetings: Before anyone skips this explanation while nodding and saying AMEN I want to be clear: I LIKE DATA. It’s great! I’m a number person and I like seeing quantitative data. What I won’t miss about data meetings is just how little qualitative data matters anymore. Even though I am locked in a room with a student for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, my professional observations and opinions don’t matter. This past year, I finally told the guidance counselor and reading coach that I would just submit my data because I don’t need to be there for them to type numbers into a program. Sadly…THEY WERE OKAY WITH IT! THEY JUST NEEDED THE NUMBERS! And we wonder how kids get to middle school with second grade reading levels!

2 – Observations: Also- MARZANO. Again, I don’t mind the concept of this, but the way it is implemented is infuriating. Pay is determined by an entirely subjective checklist. One observation you can score highly effective during a lesson and the next time you can be needs improvement using the same techniques and strategies. Does it have anything to do with your actual teaching? NO! It’s because the powers-that-be started cracking down on administrators saying they are giving “too many” highly effectives so they have to start nailing teachers for every little thing.

1 – The bureaucracy: Oh. My. Gosh. Teaching made me feel so passive and voiceless. Policies are changed on a whim. Curriculums are arbitrarily discarded for “not being rigorous enough.” We invest millions of dollars on the newest fad in education but can’t afford a raise. We fill out reams of paperwork just to cover our ass for something as stupid as a parent conference. Teaching never should have turned into a battlefield, but in our sue-happy and rigorous generation, each morning has teachers getting out of bed and asking themselves, “Who am I not too tired to fight with today?”

 

Current teachers, did I miss anything? Do you agree with my list? What would you add? Those who have left teaching, what were some of your biggest frustrations? Did any one particular item make you want to throw in the towel, or was it a combination? I’d love to hear from all of you!

Foreseeable

Here we are, in the midst of summer.

At this time last year, I was gearing up to attend weekly trainings provided by my county to supplement our paychecks. I signed up for them daily and couldn’t wait to implement my new knowledge in the classroom. It’s strange to think that the trainings are going on without me.

A lot of people have asked me, “Don’t you feel sad, knowing you won’t be back?” Well…no. Because it hasn’t hit me yet. Ask me again mid-August and I MIGHT have a different answer.

This made me start thinking about what I actually will miss. Sadly, I found it a little hard to come up with this list. But for those of you who are just beginning teaching, are entrenched in teaching, or are leaving for whatever reason, here are some things that used to put a smile on my face:

THE TOP 10 THINGS I FORESEE MYSELF MISSING

10 – The exercise: DON’T JUDGE ME. I worked at a physically enormous school and was cruising all over the place during the day. I always hit my 5 mile goal, even when I didn’t work out in the mornings. It’s going to suck staying sedentary all day.

9 – Having my own space: Yes, of course I shared it with my students, but I created that space. I was a minimalist. I hated having tons of posters on the wall about grammar and multiplication and crap like that because the kids didn’t care one way or the other and it was such a hassle to cover up during testing. Instead, I decorated my room with beautiful wildlife photography that my husband did. I had sculptures and vases with shells and colorful stones and really cool rocks and dried out coral and fake flowers and framed photographs… It was very much MY space and the kids could tell so much about me by observing their surroundings. Some people criticize that notion– the classroom should be about the KIDS. So much of teaching is about the personal connection between student and teacher, yet we never seem to have the chance to share our lives like the kids are able to share theirs. This was my way of showing my students who I am and what my personal interests are.

8 – Shopping for supplies: Do I really need to elaborate on this? We all know it’s super fun.

7 – Children’s literature: Oh how I LOVED picking out books for the kids. Even though I taught intermediate grades, I adored selecting picture books that were beautifully illustrated or photographed. I scoured through selections of kids nonfiction books looking for the most obscure topic for kids to get interested in. I fought with my administration about keeping read aloud time in my classroom so that we could jump into rich stories and learn new things. Seeing as I don’t have kids, I don’t have a reason to buy kids’ books anymore.

6 – My colleagues and the teamwork: Every job includes teamwork. In my last interview, the managers constantly harped on the importance of teamwork. The bond of teaching is incredible, though. It’s so different from the “we need to work together to meet our goal of making a lot of money” mentality that the corporate world has. I’m not criticizing teamwork in the corporate world, it’s just different. With my team this year, it was us against the world. Our county and school seemed to offer us little support and we were usually fed to the wolves with parents. Even if we did not all agree with each other ideologically, we still had to have each other’s backs. We were always there to support one other and make it through the year. I think teamwork like that is going to be hard to find in another profession.

5 – Christmas vacation: This is bad that vacation is so near to the top of my list, but oh well. One of the most frequent questions I’m asked is, “What are you going to do without your summers off?” like I’m going to die without them. Personally, I don’t really care about summer. I don’t have kids and most of my good friends are not teachers so it ends up kind of boring anyway. What I WILL miss are those two weeks around Christmas time. I’m already missing them! Getting out of school around December 16-18th is quite the godsend. I had time to shop and wrap gifts without all the crowds and relax before all of the Christmas craziness began. As an introvert, I’m already dreading the socially packed holidays and having to return to work the next day.

4 – The kids: Well, this is bad that this is not my number one. The kids aren’t number one because every teacher knows that each year is a crapshoot. Some years you get classes full of kids that you LOVE seeing every day and other years are just…meh. Fortunately, this was a meh year for me so I didn’t get the nostalgia goggles on and back out of resigning. But I will miss the frank honesty and witty humor that the kids have to offer. Sometimes, when things are muddled in our adult eyes, kids can swoop in and clearly call a situation what it is.

3 – Seeking out new resources: Love this. Goes along with the whole shopping thing. Love finding new programs, apps, books, projects, activities, centers… I used to spend hours browsing the web finding resources.

2 – Testing out new ideas: FINDING new ideas is great, but actually IMPLEMENTING them is even better. Obviously ideas sometimes crash and burn which is admittedly not so fun. But when they work…oh my goodness. It’s like a drug!

1 – The AHA moments: Nothing can take away the high of an AHA moment that a student has. That kid whose been struggling and fighting and whining and avoiding and makes me want to tear my hair out and finally…they look up… and  hear the, “OoooooOOOOhhhh! THAT’S how you do it!” I wouldn’t trade those moments for anything in the world.

Current teachers, what are the things you love about teaching? What gets you out of bed in the morning? Those who have left teaching, what were the small things that made it bearable? What do you miss the most? I’d love to hear from you all!

Identity

It’s no secret that I barely held on throughout this school year. I did everything I could to keep my sanity. One of the little things I did that kept me laughing was browsing through the Reddit teacher pages. I know it probably wasn’t helpful to peruse through hundreds of posts about “I hate teaching so much” or “The craziest thing a parent has ever said to you,” but somehow… well… it just made me feel a little more human and a little less alone.

A question that was posed frequently in varying terms: Why are so many people on here bitching about teaching, especially if they’ve quit teaching?

My gut instinct was to inwardly cuss those doe-eyed first-years out in my head. Let’s see what they have to say in five years! But the more I saw this question, the more I  began pondering.

It’s true. There are a lot of terrible posts about teaching on the internet. Go ahead and Google any variant of hate teaching, teaching sucks, quitting teaching, leaving teaching and you’ll find hundreds of angry threads talking about ungrateful children and incompetent administration and lousy pay. Surprisingly, many of these posts will be from people who are already out of the field and in another job. What motivates people to continue being so angry even after they leave?

After thinking about this for months, I believe it boils down to one thing: identity.

Yes, you will find plenty of posts from people who weren’t really sure what to do after college so they just took a teaching job with an alternative certification, or perhaps someone who came from another career and wanted to try it out for awhile. For the most part, however, many of the teachers you meet are people who have practically always wanted to teach. Their lives led them to this profession. Their work with children or with tutoring started early. They enrolled in education in undergrad, perhaps they pursued it as a graduate degree as well. They attended trainings. They participated in the book studies. Teaching is what they desired out of their life. I fit into this category.

I never imagined that teaching would go away.

So, most of us have built our lives around this passion. But the second part of our identity comes from how the world perceives us. I can walk into a room full of people I don’t know and answer the unavoidable question, “What do you do?” and people can make assumptions about me that are mostly correct. I must be a people person, because I’m constantly communicating with kids, teachers, parents, and administrators. I’m probably creative, especially since I’ve worked in elementary education. I’m patient…hell, you have to be! But perhaps the most important assumption people make is that I’m trustworthy. I am in a fishbowl. I am a pillar of society and people willingly drop their kids off and put them in my care for the majority of the day, for 10 months of the year.

Leaving teaching is all about a major shift in identity. It’s like going from girlfriend to wife, teenager to adult, student to professional.

I’ve been contemplating just how hard this shift is for people. I’ve officially accepted my job offer at the finance company. It’s a FANTASTIC company, and currently I can see myself staying there for at least the next ten years. But my life is going to change. Starting in September, when someone asks me what I do I will give a corporate mumbo jumbo title that, quite frankly, nobody understands. Whereas “crazy kid” stories were always a great icebreaker before, I highly doubt that I will have “crazy brokerage” stories. People will not necessarily look at me and know that I’m honest, that I’m hard-working, that I’m drug free, that I’m patient. In fact, the only thing I have to give will be…me. My job no longer identifies me.

It’s a strange realization, but one I am excited about. When a volunteer opportunity comes up, people won’t automatically assign me to the one with kids. People won’t assume that I’m willing to babysit. People won’t walk all over me because they know that I’m “flexible.” I will be a blank slate.

Perhaps this is where the anger and bitterness stems from– an unexpected change in identity. I once read that leaving teaching is a process of mourning. Mourning the time you have committed to the job, mourning the personal time you lost, and mourning the fact that you can quietly slip away without so much as a “thank you.” Yeah, it sounds really gripey, I know… but I get it! It’s okay!

The other route I see people take is a self-righteous story about how the career “chased them out” and they “had no other choice.” Incorrect. Unless you were fired and blacklisted from every public, private, charter, and homeschool group in your area, this was a conscious choice that you made. You decided to go. Nobody forced you out of anything. And you know what? That’s okay too!

Leaving teaching is a fine balance. It is okay to be bitter for awhile. Feel your anger and keep it moving. If you don’t compliment yourself while teaching, you won’t ever hear a nice word. On that note, if you don’t make a big deal about leaving, don’t ever expect a tearful goodbye. But limit yourself and keep moving. Don’t dress yourself in all black and mourn for years. Give yourself time to adjust to new expectations and jump in. You get a brand new start. Make the most of it.